Motherhood, The Mother of All Sexism

A Plea for Parental Equality

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Quebec spoils its families, according to some, with those “long” parental leaves—a full year for mothers (Imagine!)—well-subsidized childcare and more. Marilyse Hamelin challenges that restrictive view. But she adds that although progress has been made compared to other places in North America, stop-gap measures are not the answer. Women deserve and expect more. And the fight for women’s rights and equality is taking place here and now, in Canada and the US, and not in some distant Third World country.

Why can’t woman have it all? Why can’t the labour market and the entire infrastructure that sustains it be adapted to meet the needs of mothers—and fathers? What does that mean in practice? What are the causes of the lasting inequality between men and women? Why does our radar blank out women working at minimum wage or less?

Marilyse Hamelin answers those questions and proposes solutions, bringing to bear numerous studies, statistics, and interviews.

With a Foreword by Toula Drimonis

Author: Marilyse Hamelin is an independent journalist, blogger and public speaker born in 1980. She is a regular contributor to leading French-language publications including Le Devoir, La Presse, L’actualité, La Gazette des femmes and Châtelaine. As a committed feminist, she is often invited by Radio-Canada and other media to discuss the burning issues concerning women’s rights. Motherhood, The Mother of All Sexism, published in French under the title Maternité, La face cachée du sexisme (Leméac, 2017) is her first book. Marilyse lives in Montreal.

Reviews

“Journalist and blogger Hamelin’s debut on systemic gender inequality is a timely reminder that, despite decades of incremental changes, stereotypes and other significant barriers continue to plague women in the workplace…. a worthy contribution that rejects the notion that women’s equality has been achieved, while also proposing changes to reach that still elusive goal.” Publishers Weekly

”An admirable boldness infuses Marilyse Hamelin’s Motherhood, The Mother of All Sexism… Hamelin has done a great service.” Kerry Clare, Quill and Quire

Table des matières

Table des matières
Motherhood, The Mother of All Sexism 1
Contents 7
FOREWORD. STILL A WOMAN’S BURDEN 11
BUILDING ON QUEBEC’S EXPERIENCE IN PARENTAL EQUALITY 15
DEAR READERS 15
MOM’S THERE... 17
A COSTLY IMBALANCE 17
NOT AN ELDORADO 18
QUEBEC AS BUILDING BLOCK 19
INTRODUCTION. DAYS OF ANGER 21
CHAPTER 1. MOTHERHOOD AND THE JOB MARKET: THE DOMINION OF DISCRIMINATION 31
A DISTINCT SOCIETY? 38
BALANCING WORK AND FAMILY: THE EMPLOYER PERSPECTIVE 43
CHAPTER 2. WHY ARE MOTHERS STILL THE DEFAULT PARENT? 49
A MOTHER’S INVISIBLE WORK 57
MOMS DO IT ALL 60
THE MYTH OF “FREE CHOICE” 65
MOTHERS AREN’T BORN, THEY’RE CREATED 67
YOU JANE, ME TARZAN 69
ARE STAY-AT-HOME MOMS STIGMATIZED? 72
EQUALITY IS A MYTH 74
CHAPTER 3. INVOLVED DADS: OBSTACLES AND PREJUDICE 77
INVOLVED DAD, REJECTED DAD? 84
ENDING THE GHETTOISATION OF WOMEN 87
GUYS’ REALM, GIRLS’ REALM 89
SWIMMING AGAINST THE CURRENT 90
IS DIVISION OF LABOUR NATURAL? 93
FOR A TRULY INVOLVED DAD 95
CHAPTER 4. SHARING PARENTAL LEAVE—A RADICAL STEP? 103
TRANSFERRABLE LEAVE THAT’S RARELY TRANSFERRED 107
FEAR OF CHANGE 109
IS QUEBEC LATE TO THE GAME? 110
FRANCE’S ATTEMPT AT EQUALITY 112
WHAT A JOKE… 114
RECONFIGURING THE EXISTING MODEL 118
THINK BIG! 120
LEVELLING DOWN? 125
A PLEA FOR GREATER FLEXIBILITY 127
CHAPTER 5. ARE GENERATIONY/MILLENIAL PARENTS MORE EQUAL? 131
DOING AWAY WITH THE IMAGE OF THE CONTROLLING WIFE 134
HAVE ROLES REALLY CHANGED? 136
CONCLUSION. NECESSARY CHANGES 141
A COMPLEX REALITY 143
ENDURING CONCERNS 146
A COMMENDABLE INITIATIVE 148
POLITICAL WILL IS KEY 150
A LEAP FORWARD 154
APPENDIX 159
ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS 161
NOTES 163
BUILDING ON QUEBEC’S EXPERIENCE IN PARENTAL EQUALITY 163
INTRODUCTION. DAYS OF ANGER 163
CHAPITRE 1. MOTHERHOOD AND THE JOB MARKET: THE DOMINION OF DISCRIMINATION 165
CHAPITRE 2. WHY ARE MOTHERS STILL THE DEFAULT PARENT? 167
CHAPITRE 3. INVOLVED DADS: OBSTACLES AND PREJUDICE 171
CHAPITRE 4. SHARING PARENTAL LEAVE—A RADICAL STEP? 174
CHAPTER 5. ARE GENERATION Y/MILLENIAL PARENTS MORE EQUAL? 176
CONCLUSION. NECESSARY CHANGES 177
Also available from Baraka Books 178

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